“What Not to Do” this Valentine’s Day, According to Dating.com
Before the most romantic day of the New Year arrives, Dating.com, part of the Dating.com Group and the company behind numerous online dating sites, has released a newly curated guide to navigating Valentine’s Day festivities.
These tips alert daters of what not to do in virtually every possible scenario to avoid heartbreak and simultaneously support romantics everywhere in the search for love.
Don’t contact your ex – If anything, let your ex contact you. You do not need to be disappointed by an unenthusiastic conversation or, worse, no answer. Take the day to start a conversation with someone new online – or simply take the day off from dating altogether and try again tomorrow when the pressure of the holiday subsides.
Don’t draw too much attention to the actual holiday – Rather than posting on your social media and trying to make a joke out of how you are alone, leave your followers wondering what you could possibly be up to. Do not broadcast the fact that you are single, instead choose not to comment and remove yourself from the already oversaturated conversation – focus your efforts on choosing the perfect new picture to revamp your dating profile.
Don’t throw or attend a party – Everyone loves a party, but pity parties aren’t ever really as fun. Unless you can find a group of people that is truly interested in having positive and constructive get-together – rather than an anti-holiday gathering – we suggest you avoid it.
If you are taking the day to try something new and expand your horizons, first dates are a great way to go. Dating.com finds that women are more open than their counterparts to have a first date on Valentine’s Day – there is a 34% uptick of female users who initiate an offline meeting on February 14. Our in- house dating experts have come up with the following tricks to avoiding a Valentine’s Day first date catastrophe:
Don’t wear a themed outfit – Stay away from hearts or any clothing in the red-family.
Although your first date happens to fall on Valentine’s Day, a real match will want to dig deeper and move past the noise that the holiday creates to actually focus on who you really are. For some, playing too much into the holiday can act as an almost instant turn off.
Don’t show up empty handed – Start things off on the best note possible by exceeding your date’s expectations before the date has technically even started. Flowers aren’t too expensive and speak volumes! Something to remember, however, is not to overspend. An over-the-top gesture can come off as a warning sign to a date that you may be overcompensating for something.
Control the PDA – Since you are just meeting for the first time that day, it’s best to set some boundaries. It’s easy to get caught up in all of the romance that is associated with this particular day, but keep some things to the imagination to ensure that you get that second date and take this potential connection further.
Contrast to popular belief, more men than women are concerned over planning their Valentine’s Day – 19% more men said they like to think ahead about where and who they choose to celebrate with. Here is what not to do when planning a romantic night with your significant other:
Don’t wait until the last minute to plan – Keep in mind that February 14th is one of the hardest days of the year to grab tickets or a reservation, so plan ahead to secure your date spot.
Don’t do the same thing as last year – If you’ve been with your partner for more than one Valentine’s Day already, make sure you plan something special that you’ve never done together before this year. Simply going through the motions is not enough to keep your partner satisfied.
Don’t forget to establish gifting precedents – Before the big day arrives, establish whether or not you want to exchange gifts in order to avoid any awkward one-sided exchanges.
Set expectations but remember this: even if your relationship isn’t too focused on material items, this is a great day to make your match feel more special than just any other average day.
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